When celebrities speak truth...on accident

Here's my disclaimer. I have no idea who Chelsea Handler is. None. The article says she's a comedian and an author. Okay, sure. We'll go with that. The two books she's listed as writing are, "My Horizontal Life: A Collection of One-Night Stands," and "Are You There Vodka? It's Me, Chelsea."

I'm sure she has a very promising career ahead of her.

A quote she gave in a recent Glamour Magazine article caught my attention. It was so accidentally honest, I simply can't help repeating it. So here it is.

In regard to promiscuity, in my book [My Horizontal Life] I actually have sex with a total of eight guys in the entire thing. But the fact that I discussed it at all led people to believe that I was some big trollop. I think it’s OK—that’s what your twenties are for. Now that I’m in my thirties, that’s over. If there’s a message that I can’t say loud enough, it’s that it’s OK to be who you are. I don’t want to be one of those girls who is like, “Oh, I didn’t do that. I’m not like that.” Because those girls make girls like me feel bad about ourselves. And we should be bringing each other up, not putting each other down.

Real mental meat here. The girl's a thinker.

What I don't understand is, if the message she "can't say loud enough" is that it's "OK to be who you are," then why can't girls who don't have one-night stands, why is it not okay for them to be who they are?

You can only be who you are if you don't make Chelsea Handler feel bad about who she is?

Maybe it's me, but it loses something in the translation.

That brings me to what really got my attention. The truth I'm not sure she realized she was speaking.

So your twenties are all about casual sex. She says it like it's a given. Of course you sleep around in your twenties. That's what "your twenties are for".

In other words, it's normal and healthy and nothing to feel ashamed about. It's the whole purpose of an entire decade of your life - having meaningless sex with strangers. It's so great, in fact, you stop doing it in your thirties?

Again. Maybe English isn't her first language. Maybe it's not mine, if she's speaking it.

So if casual, meaningless sex is such a healthy, beneficial, glorious lifestyle, then how do women who abstain make Chelsea Handler feel bad about herself?
It's normal, right?
It's great fun, right?
There's nothing wrong with it, right?
No regrets. No mental baggage. No self-esteem issues. No negatives at all. Just not good, not clean, not fun, fun.
I don’t want to be one of those girls who is like, “Oh, I didn’t do that. I’m not like that.” Because those girls make girls like me feel bad about ourselves.
How is that possible Chelsea Handler? Either it isn't possible, or you aren't being honest...most likely with yourself. Casual sex isn't casual. It never was. And for you, it's created a division in your mind between girls who abstain and "girls like me."

If there's nothing more to casual sex than an evening's worth of entertainment, then it shouldn't have the power to divide you from "those girls" or any girls. Period.

When you protect yourself physically, you are, in turn, protecting yourself mentally and spiritually and personally and other '"ly"s, too. When you are doing what is right for yourself, what is right morally, you don't need an agreeing consensus to confirm those choices. It's worth the disagreement. And when you are being more than just "who you are", but actually being the best version of you, no one can make you feel bad about yourself. Their opinions simply don't matter.

Chelsea Handler, if you want to be honest, maybe your next book should be about your regrets.